It’s National #DateYourMate Month and I’m so excited! Hubby and I still love to date each other. We’ve been married for a while, so even if we just stay in with pizza and a movie on Friday night, it’s all about the quality time together. Dating is the best way to get to know each other. Full disclosure, you still may not learn everything about your partner in the dating process. As thorough as we were, there were still things that we didn’t learn about each other. His secret had to do with Marvel…
I met my husband in 2008. Our friendship was immediate. I was head over heels, just from the conversations that we shared. We talked about everything. We bonded over Tekken, enjoyed meals with each other, and watched movies. Going to the movies has always been our thing and we went every chance we got. We had the same taste in movies, loved seemingly random flicks like The Ladykillers, Requiem for a Dream, and Go. I just knew that our bond couldn’t get any stronger. We dated and married and continued our tradition of going to the movies; when we moved in together, we had to give away a ton of DVDs because we had the same ones and this was the clearest indication of a perfect relationship that I’d ever seen!
Imagine my astonishment and sheer amazement when Marvel movies really started gaining mainstream popularity and he said that he’d never seen one…
My mind was racing! Are you serious right now? Who are you? How did you trick me into this marriage?!
How Marvel Helped to Strengthen My Relationship
Just as with anything, you have two choices. You can go left or right. You can go backward or forward.
I had a choice to make. I could file for divorce, citing irreconcilable differences, or I could bring him into another part of my world.
My husband’s saving grace was that he liked action movies and was into sci-fi, so superheroes weren’t a big stretch for him. He agreed to give it a try… *whew*
Not surprisingly, he was hooked!
We did double time on catching him up on every Marvel superhero movie made. We did it just in time for Avengers: Infinity War! My relationship has been around as long as Avengers: Infinity Wars has been in the making. We got to see it on opening weekend and the aftermath resulted in the liveliest conversation that we’ve had about a Marvel film. I would tell you about it but #ThanosDemandsYourSilence… The point is this: something that could have been so devastating to a marriage was used as an opportunity to bond. If you think I’m being a little dramatic, you clearly don’t understand my love for superheroes… {I kid, I kid…} Even on Netflix, we sit and watch the backstories of all of the Marvel superheroes so that he can know who plays a role where and how everyone is connected. It’s awesome.
My Superhero Husband
This topic in our marriage is still a pretty funny one for us, but dating is a wonderful chance to really get to know your partner. Before you get into a marriage, make sure that you are intentional about dating the person you’re with. Go to a movie. Try a new restaurant. Indulge in an activity that is new to both of you. Rekindle the romance through what the other person likes to do. Get to know who they are through the things they say and do.
One thing that has always been constant in our relationship is that my husband is always looking to try something new; he’s always ready to have a new experience. I love that about his personality, that he wants to live life to the fullest. I’m just trying to keep up.
What are the hobbies that you and your partner don’t share? Can you use them as an opportunity to bond with each other? Let me know in the comments below!
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