Just looking at today’s prompt, I couldn’t help but laugh. Sunday is the beginning of our anniversary week + we’re celebrating almost a decade of best friendship.
What are five funny (but real) things your current relationship has taught you?
5 years of marriage {9 total years of knowing each other} certainly provide more than 5 funny lessons. We love to laugh with each other + are truly best friends. I’m really excited to share this post with you because too many people think that marriage is the end of the world. That all the fun is gone after you walk down the aisle + you should avoid it at all costs. Even that there is no one person with whom you can be with for.ev.er.
Yeah…no.
Marriage can be so amazing! It’s an adventure! If you plan + really get to know your partner, you can truly enjoy the fruits of living out your life with your bestie. If you knew half of the things that went on in our marriage, you could write a comedy special…
5 Times When We Had To Laugh It Out
- Life isn’t always going to smell like roses. Sometimes it will stink + you have to adjust accordingly to find the beautiful fragrance. My husband is 6′ tall + pees standing up. I’m 5’4″ and, of course, pee sitting down. We usually wake up around the same time + our first stop is the bathroom. I’m always fighting the urge to get out of bed, so he usually goes in first. I will never forget the last time that I went in right after him. As I said, I sit when I pee. He stands. He pees. He farts…right where my face is when I sit. It took one time to pee in a fart cloud to learn to hold it in long enough for the air to clear. Of course he got a good laugh out of it! It taught me that sometimes you will need to hold steady through the unpleasant times to get to the job done. Every day won’t be a bed of roses, but you can find them if you’re willing to work for it.
- And speaking of farts…I drop them around the house on a regular basis, sometimes loud enough to startle him + make him literally laugh out loud. I’m lactose intolerant + wine is starting to mess with me too. I’m not giving it up either, because, YOLO. I said in the beginning of our dating relationship that if I couldn’t burp or fart around him, that I couldn’t be with him. Being with your husband or wife should be the safest place in the world for you. Inside of your marriage is the one place where you can truly be yourself. If you can’t be yourself with your spouse, who are you really…and who are you presenting to the world? How will you ever give your 100% to your relationship if afraid to be yourself? Your statement may not be passing gas, but you should never be worried about being your true self.
- Marriage can sometimes be a little painful. As in the “being in close proximity” sort of way. I can’t count the number of times I’ve been clawed by uncut toenails or the times I’ve accidentally head butted him in my sleep. One of our favorite past times is the TV Interruption. This is the game we play where my husband is peacefully watching TV + I come in to bother him. He tickles me, I squirm to get away + proceed to fall off the bed, laughing + in hysterics. It might actually be why my hip hurts a lot, but that will never stop me. Our many mini injuries have taught us to dust it off + keep it moving. We learned to quickly forgive each other our transgressions; we say “I’m Sorry,” we mean it + we live to laugh another day.
- Balance is important. He likes the house to be about 60 degrees + I’m a happy camper at around 78. We really had to have the conversation as to whether or not we would make it in marriage because we can’t ever agree on what temperature the house should be. He usually wins, but as part of his reward, every night he is subjected to my ice cold feet and body on every part of his exposed skin that I can find. Until I get warm, he is tormented. And I’m thoroughly amused. I have a slightly more volatile disposition than my husband, but being with him has taught me to cool off + find a more even condition before I react. It does help that I’m reading a book about it too.
- Trust {still} has to be earned. I trained in taekwondo for 13 years + for a while, trained my husband. He knows how strong my legs are + has seen people on the receiving end of one of my kicks. One afternoon we curled up together to take a nap. We were facing each other, me with my feet tucked in between his legs. I said “man, you must really trust me.” He simply replied, “yes, I do…” and went to sleep. I know I toss and turn, so I moved. But the fact that he trusted me enough to not even flinch while in such a vulnerable position is something that had to be earned. He trusted me not to hurt him. I don’t know if I would have been that brave… Honesty goes along with maintaining trust + is part of the solid foundation of a good, healthy relationship. Consistency is the key + it’s something that has to be earned {+given} every day.
It’s a true blessing to be able to laugh with my husband every day + I never take him, nor the lessons learned in our trials, for granted. Relationships aren’t easy, but if you work at them, they can be the most amazing adventure.
What funny + real things have your relationships taught you? Let me know in the comments below!
P.S. – are you following us on Instagram + Periscope? Next week is anniversary week + we’ll be sharing our week long celebration! Tune in!
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