Hey Girl, Hey! 5 Characteristics of Awesome Christian Girlfriends

Did you know there was a National Girlfriends Day? I didn’t either, but because this year it falls on a Tuesday, I’m already picturing myself making Taco Tuesday one to remember!

Believe it or not, people still debate whether or not friends outside of your spouse are even necessary! Um, friends are necessary. My husband is totally my best friend, but I have to keep my girls close too.

Girlfriends Are Good Friends Too

I didn’t have a lot of female friends growing up. I was always considered a “tomboy” and was much more comfortable around the guys than I was the girls. In high school, I found myself the subject of cattiness and this behavior didn’t stop when I reached adulthood. Even after all of that, I managed to tumble into some truly genuine friendships.

It’s not easy for me to let people completely into my life, but if I trust you enough to do that, it’s a beautiful and cherished relationship. The women who I call my girlfriends are ones I trust and can confide in with just about anything. Our fondest moments are laughing over the silliest things and being there for each other through the serious moments.

 

Birds of a Friend Feather

You have to choose your girlfriends wisely. This is even more important when you’re a married woman. Marriage brings about an entirely new set of life experiences and problems. Especially for newlyweds, it’s important to have a married friend to be able to confide in and learn from. It’s surprising to me that a popular belief is that women should not tell other women what’s going on in their marriages; there will be times when you need to keep what’s going on in your household right where it is. Contrary to the idea that we are in this alone, Titus 2:3-5 says “Likewise, teach the older women to be reverent in the way they live, not to be slanderers or addicted to much wine, but to teach what is good. Then they can urge the younger women to love their husbands and children, to be self-controlled and pure, to be busy at home, to be kind, and to be subject to their husbands, so that no one will malign the word of God.” 

When we went through our pre-engagement process, I built relationships with the wives that I never thought I would need. My wife-girlfriends are a great sounding board to help remind me to seek God first because, hey, even the most sincere Christians sometimes want to take the path of least love.

5 Characteristics of an Awesome Christian Girlfriend

As a Christian woman, married or seeking to be, you have to be very considerate about the types of girlfriends you let into your life. Here are some of the traits that she should embody:

1. She is willing to walk alongside you, through thick and thin, but not sin. A true friend will stand by you and be your strength when you may not have your own. She will not lead you astray in your walk with Christ. Just like your spouse, her goal is to get to Heaven and she wants you to get there too.
2. She has an agape honesty. There is something so valuable about having a friend who will tell you the truth. It’s even more precious when she can do it in love and without selfish judgment. This characteristic can be hard to find in another person, but as Christians, we should be ready to correct in love at all times {2 Timothy 2: 22-26.} She lives her life with a true embodiment of humility, allowing her to serve others over self.
3. She is a mentor. Les Brown is quoted as saying “If you’re the smartest person in the group, then you need a new group.” In order to grow as a Christian woman, you need to be planted in fertile soil. A great girlfriend will support your spiritual and emotional growth.
4. She loves life. Our Father put us here for a purpose, but He never intended for us to be melancholy about it. It’s ok to laugh and live life! We have joy in Him and we should be proud of the opportunity to live in that joy here on earth. There is nothing quite like the laughter between friends! A great girlfriend loves life and knows the true sense of joy.
5. She values and respects your marriage/relationship. In married circles, there is always the decision to be made whether or not married women can have single friends. Marital status does not necessarily correlate with the strength of a friendship. What matters the most is whether she respects you and your relationship and proceeds accordingly.

Celebrate your girlfriends! Be thankful for the women in your life who are there to help you grow as a Christian woman. Enjoy the relationships that you have been blessed with on this journey.

Who is your {best} girlfriend? What are the qualities you value most in her? Let me know in the comments below!