Sex is an important part of marriage and is such an intimate act between spouses. Even though these would make incredible Valentine’s Day gifts for her, you’ll want to use these toys every time you think about getting into bed…or on whatever surface you may find yourself…
There are many admirable qualities to my husband and our marriage. We are best friends. Doing life together and continually, consistently working on our marriage. We are learning and rediscovering each other all the time. Our verbal conversation is great but there is another kind of conversation in which we regularly participate.
We have a great sex life!
Because we’ve nurtured such an intimate relationship when our clothes are on, we have also created a space for physical intimacy when they’re off. Part of that physical intimacy involves the space to be open about what we do or don’t like in bed. The other part gives us the courage to try something new and spicy.
Our Top 3 Recommended Starter Toys
Frisky Bang Her G-Spot Wearable Finger Vibrator
Nipple Play Silicone Pro Nipple Suckers
Clone-A-Willy Dildo Making Kit
Clutch My Pearls and Hold My Mule
Why in the world would we be talking about this?! A common misconception in Christian marriages is that sex has to be repetitive, boring, and only used for procreation.
Lies. And not even good lies at that!
Believing the lie that you can’t enjoy your sex life can lead to being unsatisfied, being afraid to speak with your spouse about what you want and need. Inadvertently, you can give room for the enemy to find his way into your marriage. It’s a slippery slope but one that is not impossible to end up on if you’re not intentional.
Scriptures say that the marriage bed is undefiled. That doesn’t mean sex should turn into a snooze-inducing chore! Keeping the marriage bed undefiled means that you’re in agreement with how you want to explore your sexual relationship together. The easiest (and most novice) way to do that is to introduce adult toys into the routine.
Sex Toys For Beginners to Try
Whether you’re reading this for yourself or looking for a Valentine’s gift for her, these adult sex toys for couples will get you off to an erotic start. Specially curated to ease you into the world of sex play, this list of gifts is a perfect place to begin.
Frisky Bang Her G-Spot Wearable Finger Vibrator
Small but mighty, this stimulator will quickly become a favorite! If you want or need extra clitoral stimulation, this can be worn by either of you and be used in any position. It’s lighter, less clunky, and not as cumbersome as using a traditional vibrator.
Available here for $14.
Nipple Play Silicone Pro Nipple Suckers
If nipple play is the key to revving your engine, these nipple suckers might be just what you need! Easy to use, they work by using suction to increase the blood flow to the nipples and areolas. Let these effective little tools leave your hands to explore everywhere else.
Find them for $25 here.
Bedroom Truth or Dare Card Game
Truth or Dare has always been the go-to game for when you want an excuse to push the limits. Moving the game into the bedroom takes it to a whole other level! Learn about each other’s fantasies and naughty secrets with this game. Dare to tell the truth and get dirty together.
Get your set here. The cost is $8.
Clone-A-Willy Dildo Making Kit
Apprehensive about playing with an unfamiliar penis? Well, this gift takes away all those concerns! Let’s be real…if you’ve never used sex toys before, it can be a little intimidating to feel like you’re playing with a member that doesn’t belong to him. This kit will let you make a mold of his penis to enjoy.
Available in 5 colors, the kit costs $54 and may be found here.
OUCH! Introductory Bondage Kit #2
Don’t let the name fool you…there’s no pain in this kind of pleasure! Use this bondage kit to up your foreplay game, raising the temperature of your lovemaking. A fantasy fave, the art of anticipation increases adrenaline and blood flow to all the places that matter. It comes with a sexy die set to help with ideas on just how to use them.
Try this sexy tease for $19.
Jo Xtra Silky Silicone Lube
It’s gotta be wet if you’re going to slip and slide… Lubricant is essential in sexual foreplay and activity. It reduces friction, which increases pleasure. Learn more about what type of lubricant would work best for you here. Get this one for $21.
Quick Pro vs Con
The pro is that the silicone lubricant doesn’t absorb into the skin, so it doesn’t really have to be reapplied. The con is that it can break down the material of the sex toy over time. As a result, clean your toys regularly, especially if you use silicone-based lube. Grab a bottle of Jo Refresh Foam Toy Cleaner to protect your toys.
*Disclaimer #1* If you’re trying to conceive, be careful of which lubricant you use. Most lubricants are not sperm-friendly. If you are spicing things up in hopes of making a baby, buy the Actively Trying Personal lubricant. It’s sperm-safe, aiding in motility and immune support for his sperm.
*Disclaimer #2* Several natural lubricants on the market incorporate the amino acid arginine because it increases blood flow to your sexual organs. An adult store employee revealed this type of lubricant should be avoided if you have Herpes Simplex 1 or 2 (HSV-1 or HSV-2) because the virus feeds off of this particular amino acid. Check the label for the ingredients and learn more here and here.
Learn Your Sex Style
I created my collection of sex toys because I saw something that looked fun and splurged; I found out later that it really didn’t work for me. Hubby and I watched “Sex, Love, and Goop” on Netflix and learned about the different types of sexual blueprints. I took the exam and was surprised by my blueprint, as I was wrong about what really turned me on! In looking to try something new, it would be an important step in your intimate relationship for both of you to know what gets you going. Find your Erotic Blueprint and learn more about your sexual desires.
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